i have all these pheels about these two…okay.
GO HEAD YOU BE SURPRISED
A little note from me as something to think on. This isn’t a social justice rant because god knows I am only a simple RPer not a social justice blogger, this is just some calmly outlined thoughts in a debate that is extremely hot-button at the moment.
I wasn’t going to say anything but it’s getting to the point where I think it’s necessary. As someone who uses Jeremy Renner as a faceclaim I thought I’d put in a word or two. A word that someone used seven years ago in blase way does not necessarily reflect his character now. Yes, the word is racist. However, considering the movie and the role that Jeremy Renner was in at the time I think it’s quite possible he was a little desensitized to the word. He had to think and act like a skinhead, so he experienced a moment of poor judgement.
However. I think in terms of racism, that Mr. Renner is really not a racist person. Neither is he transphobic or homophobic or whatever other words you choose to throw out there.
The words he used were poor choices. I think that’s something we can all agree on.
But, when compared to Mel Gibson’s drunken tirade I think this comes down to a case of society’s flawed views over one person’s.
I wish I could word what I want to say properly but so far I’m failing. Basically there’s this: I don’t believe Mr. Renner was meaning to be offensive when he used the words he did. I think that if pointed out calmly and reasonably as offensive he would probably be quick to issue an apology. However, suddenly exploding is not the way to handle the situation.
Family means…heartbreak and denying what you though you knew. It means surprises and hard decisions. It means being scared and maybe a bit lonely. Family can also mean harsh words and drawn out fighting.
It means pity and betrayal, sometimes it even means being on your own. It’s about surviving and clinging to whoever’s there at the time without becoming blinded to their flaws. It means legacies, both the good and the bad. And it means old memories to keep locked away where they will decay but never fully die. And wounds that will scar but never truly heal.
But family can also mean you don’t have to be connected by blood. It means someone who will pick you up even when you think you don’t need it. It means being willing to open yourself to pain in order to get the good. It means loving someone enough to care what happens to them. Family is a mix of good and bad, light and dark. It’s never easy but sometimes it can be rewarding.
eyeofasoaringhawk replied to your post: eyeofasoaringhawk replied to your post: [when…
[oh, I know. And I really wanted to kinda see the over-time breakdown for a single question, because that’s the way I think when I develop characters.]
[[xD I love this exercise actually. Because it’s making me think about how I view him over the years. And it’s different writing for a canon than it is an OC who’s background you know a little more intimately just by virtue of having written it yourself.]]
trickshot-barton replied to your post: [when clint and barney ran away to the circus] what does family mean to you?
//Just watching this is giving me feels
[[I have to write it though :,(((((]]
eyeofasoaringhawk replied to your post: [when clint’s parents were still alive] what does family mean to you?
[that’s because anon is me and i excel at being cruel.]
[[THEN PREPARE FOR THE ESSAY. Because it’s going to be heartbreaking and filled with my Clint feels]]
Family means lies. It means being disappointed and disillusioned. And it means being alone.
